Written Thoughts by Rachel ‘Eagle Dove’ Talley,
Oklevueha Native American Church Medicine Woman
Blessing Way is a Native American ceremony that has been used as a safe space for healing and celebrating the coming of a new life.
During this sacred ceremony, a mother with the support of friends and family, can open herself to the challenges and joys that lie before her as she approaches birthing and mothering. In this setting, the mother-to-be can gain the confidence, power and love she needs to move forward in her new role with peace and understanding.
Pregnancy is a birth and cleansing time where all physical and emotional toxicity are being purged from the system so as to not pass any unwanted or unneeded ill health onto her fetus. A blessing way moves and shifts a woman’s energy in such a profound way that she feels a draw to listen more to herself and her own intuition in the future weeks before the birth and the months that follow after. By listening to her own inner knowing, she then is guided through the steps to create a beautiful pregnancy and birth experience.
You don’t have to be an American Native Person to be able to hold a blessing way for yourself or a loved one. The ceremony, in and of itself, is designed as itself a very meaningful and fulfilling experience for the mother to be while respecting her own personal beliefs.
Blessing ways truly are a transformative experience where one communes with the Divine within and outside of them. Each woman in becoming a mother gleans new insights and inspirations from the experience that can bring more happiness and blessings to her life, in support of her eternal preparations of honoring life’s new spiritual being into the human family.
The Seven Core Values of Oklevueha Native American Church
Values are the guiding principles of our lives. Whatever way we choose to act or even feel in a given situation, that choice invites others to do the same. In this way, our constructive choices actually change the world for the better.
We believe that all of creation has purpose and that each creation has value. We should especially respect our ancestors who have created and preserved the ancient ways that teach and bless us. Respect is also extended to all ceremonial ways and sacred medicines. We respect the gifts that Creator has given us.
Humility is seeing ourselves as we really are and understanding clearly the inter-relationship of all creation. This includes knowing our strengths and owning them as well as seeing our weaknesses and fears. Humility is not degrading or dishonoring ourselves but taking the responsibility to fulfill our mission without worrying about receiving credit or praise. We cultivate a spirit of humility when we understand our place in Creator’s plan, and how we have been blessed by Creator’s hand.
Gratitude is to first, feel appreciation for the gifts we are given and the blessings that come from the efforts of others, and second, to express that appreciation to Great Creator and to those around us. Gratitude is a daily, moment-by-moment practice, wherein we give thanks to Creator for all that we have and are.
Forgiveness changes the forgiver. The true meaning of forgiveness is to turn our hearts. When we forgive, it heals us and allows us to move forward. Forgiveness frees us from the pains of our past and enables us to walk in peace.
One meaning of Charity is benevolent giving to those who are in need or to good causes. Another is the ability to truly love and serve each other with our hearts and hands as well as our intentions. It also carries a meaning of giving others the benefit of the doubt when there is possible conflict, neither taking nor giving offense. We believe all of these definitions are of importance and recommend that everyone ponder them while in prayer and meditation.
Faith is hope, confidence, and a belief that our higher power desires good things for us and will open doors for us to receive them when we are open, prepared and willing to do so. It is knowing our lives are in Creator’s hands, and the we can create a life of connectedness and spirituality.
Honor is the ability to combine all these values into our relationships with those who travel the road with us and to those who created and travelled the roads before us. Honoring simply means that we notice, acknowledge, and appreciate those who open the way and give us the ability to live, move and accomplish.
Living by these values requires honesty with ourselves and integrity in our dealings with others. As we seek in our imperfect ways to always live by these values, we will feel fulfilled and strengthened in our own lives even as we affect the people around us and the world for good.
It is our deepest wish that every member of ONAC feel safe, protected, cared for, and supported. Please remember we come from many walks of life, and not every member may believe exactly as you do. Respect goes both ways, and we must always remember to honor another’s opinion, even if we do not agree.